Using Social Media: Find the Courage to be Yourself.
May 20, 2019 | By: Melissa
Have you ever posted something on social media and then erased it? I know I have. We just have this unrelenting desire for our social media to portray perfection. We want to look like the perfect mom, the perfect wife, that we have the perfect children and any less than is unacceptable. But guys, NONE of us are actually perfect. And those imperfections, they're part of how we relate to one another and become close to one another. Think about your closest girlfriends and how unfiltered you are with them. You found your people by being YOU. So in order to find your people when it comes to your business, you need to take that concept onto your social media and be YOURSELF. While it's totally not necessary to put all of your business out to the online universe, I am however giving you permission to be yourself unapologetically. Do not be afraid to be who you are, to talk like you're chatting with your best girlfriends and to let those some of those imperfections shine through.
Social media, regardless of whether you are partnering with a direct sales company or starting your own business endeavor, is crucial to modern marketing. In order to be successfully using this powerful tool, you have to be confident enough to consistently & committedly put yourself out there. Being 100% you, you're going to find YOUR tribe, your people. The people who value the things you value, who are passionate about the things you are passionate about. The people who want to invest in you and your product. I know this can be hard, because people? People can be mean, or may be they won't care, or even some will be annoyed. May be they won't like or comment on your posts. But ya'll...who cares? Listen closely when I say this, THOSE ARE NOT YOUR PEOPLE. Most of us care so much about what other people think that we hold ourselves back from pursuing what we really want. How unfair is that to ourselves? The biggest thing to realize: it's not that people 'don't like you' but their preferences are different. Our connection to that person is just not really there. And I'm here to tell you, THAT IS OK. We don't all like and want the exact same things, because we're not robots. No need to apologize for being you, because we all have the right to be ourselves. So instead of focusing on the people who may not connect to us, realize there are literally hundreds of thousands of millions of people who DO get you.
Here are a list of things that have helped me find the courage to be ME:
1. Reading books for personal development. Guys. GET RACHEL HOLLIS' "GIRL WASH YOUR FACE" NOW. Don't have time to sit and read a book? Download the audible app, use the first free month and listen to her book while you are folding the laundry, K?
2. My plexus team. Let me tell you guys- my Plexus girls freaking rock! Even over 2000 miles away, the girls on my team cheer me on and inspire me. They are so kind and a huge support. Find yourself a group/team of people who encourage you to grow. We become an average of the five combined people we spend the most time with. Make sure they're building you up and loving you for who YOU are.
3. Being 100% honest. Therapy. My need to please other people above myself turned into a sickness. I found myself in a toxic relationship trying to be someone else to please someone else. In my case therapy changed my life and I found the strength to be myself by learning to love me for who I am.
4. Creating a list of positive affirmations. I know I know, this sounds cheesy. This honestly was really hard for me at first to do. A list of positive things about myself? I thought these positive thoughts about yourself meant you were conceited and that was the last thing I ever wanted to be. But SELF LOVE is NOT SELFISH. And being CONFIDENT is not COCKY. Read this list every morning to remind yourself that you are worthy, beautiful, likeable, that you matter and that people need what you have to offer. And seriously, if you can't think of ONE good thing to say about yourself (you're totally fooling yourself btw) but recall something someone has told you in the past. Keep a record of those things. Invest in a beautiful journal, because this is special, like one of these.
Let me remind you, you matter, you have something valuable. you have your own story, your own passion, your own imperfections and people WILL relate to that and LOVE you for it. Don't ever apologize for being you.