Somewhere along the lines we have created this picture in our heads of what being a perfect mom should be. For me, this picture looks like a perfectly manicured, extremely patient, attentive at all times, sporting an apron in 4 inch heels... and she definitely does not work. Where this picture came from? I really don’t know. But what I do know is that I am far from that picture. Most of the time my hair is looking ten types of crazy and I’m not even sure what I’m wearing, I do know though, that it most likely does not match. Shoot right now I’m writing this in my post workout gym clothes! The moments where I feel manicured and put together... they definitely don’t involve heels, and more than that, they are definitely far and few between. But what I’m coming to terms with at almost ten months post partum, is... all of that is ok. It’s ok that I’m sporting yoga pants and a t-shirt. It’s ok that my hair isn’t looking like a Pinterest perfection. It’s ok that there are moments where I feel overwhelmed by trying to perfectly mom, work, and wife all at the same time. I feel like all this is important to say, because somewhere along the lines we get this picture in our heads of what motherhood should be like and when our actual reality isn’t aligning with this picture, we feel like we are falling short. We can feel like we’re failing to be that mom. But seriously guys, who is that mom?!
Here’s what I do know. Despite not living up to this made up picture I am a good mom. And that just because I am a working mom, does not mean I’m not a good mom. Moms, hear me loud and clear... you are allowed to live the life of your dreams. This does not mean being that mom. It means living the life that makes you happy. So what is it that makes you happy? What is it that fuels your passion and makes your heart soar? If you already feel fulfilled and like you’re living your happiest life, then much love to you, because you have figured it out! But for my other mamas who feel like they were put on this earth for multiple purposes, that is ok, too! Being a mom doesn’t mean it has to be the entire equation, it is allowed to be a piece of it. In my eyes it’s the most important piece. But you are allowed to live the life of your dreams. It doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you human. That’s right you are a living, breathing human with your own passions, desires and dreams- and you are allowed to have them! You are allowed to live them! Do not let anyone else’s opinion or your own self-condemning picture of perfect mom hold you back from living and creating the life you want. I know #momguilt is real.
You hold the power, the question is will you let go of these self-inflicting thoughts to allow yourself to create it?